“There comes a time in life where you have to let go of all the pointless drama and the people who create it and surround yourself with people who make you laugh so hard that you forget the bad and focus soley on the good. After all, life is too short to be anything but happy.”
What do you think of this quote? I read it and loved it right away, but I’ve been thinking it over. On the surface it sounds very liberating. But I wonder about the people you leave behind. I agree that “pointless drama” should be avoided. If there isn’t a point to the drama, then by definition it won’t lead to a new understanding or point. And I agree that the people creating the pointless drama are to be avoided, at least at times, if you can’t remain positive in their presence. But this should not mean we write them out of our lives.
Although this quote sounds liberating, it’s a liberty gained by retreating. Sure, you can surround yourselves with happy-go-lucky friends who make you laugh. I bet it would be a lot of fun. But what about those other people in your life that are not so happy? Do they deserve to be abandoned because they don’t make you feel good?
I don’t think life is too short to be anything but happy, if it’s at the expense of other people. Call me a do-good-er, but I love my friends even when they’re sad or angry, depressed or confused, and I like to hang out with them even if they don’t make me feel like laughing.
I think Steve Jobs is expressing a selfish attitude. You’re number one and only things that make you happy are worth doing? Right? I don’t believe that. I think relationships are sometimes very difficult, and when we’re in those relationships it sometimes becomes dramatic. Sometimes it feel pointless. So what? Do you think it’s better to tear families and friendships apart because you just want to feel happy all the time? Are you entitled to a life of pure happiness?
To me this is a selfish attitude, and frankly, one that is juvenile. I hope we all have deeper relationships with people than what’s implied in that quote, that we care enough about others to stay with them through rough times, when they might be stuck and trying to work something out. Don’t give up on them because they don’t bring a smile to your lips whenever you’re together.
You’d want a friend to do the same for you.
“There are two means of refuge from the miseries of life – music and cats.” –Albert Schweitzer, physician/Nobel Laureate.
Whenever I’m feeling low, I feel the touch of my kitty’s paw and then hear her purr, and in no time at all I feel as though there is a place of goodness and love, and it’s right here where I’m sitting. She can make life feel worth living again.
Music has a different but similar effect. Whether it’s a danceable tune by ABBA or it’s Paul Simon singing about bouncing into Graceland, I start to move, and soon I realize that although there is misery in the world, right here and right now I can still dance.
How about you? What lifts you up out of life’s miseries?
Brain scans, experiments and studies indicate that we really get better at understanding people and their interactions if we read fiction. And if we talk about what we’ve read, perhaps with a friend or more formally in book groups, our understanding increases. So don’t think of reading and talking about novels as simply a wonderful way for us to pass the time. Think of it also as educational, a study in human psychology.
If your grandchildren didn’t acknowledge you on that day, it’s probably because other things of greater importance were happening, like the commemoration of the events that occurred ten years ago.
However, if you are fortunate enough to have grandchildren, remember that they are growing up faster than you are growing old, and enjoy every moment that you can with them. You’ll live on in their memories long after your body is used up. Make the memories significant. Give them the best of who you are. It’s really the only legacy worth leaving.
Ever thought about how relevant the writings of past times are to today’s world? I read and re-read Jane Austen, and though society has changed a lot in 200 years, her humor, her irony, her insights, are still just right for today.
However, there are books that are full of rules for regulating society, and they lose their power when times change. For instance, a book on etiquette that insists that men doff their hats to a woman has nothing to tell the modern man who either eschews hats or has a cap permanently pulled down on his head.
This piece points out that following the letter of a very old law makes no sense and does, in fact, lead to cruel and horrible practices that have been outlawed for centuries. But don’t worry, you’ll have a good laugh if you read this.
You have to watch this beautiful video. If you ever doubted that whales were at least on a par with humans emotionally, you will not doubt it again after seeing this.
Was the freed humpback whale expressing exuberance, joy, at being free? Or was she showing with her whole being how grateful she was to the humans that freed her and gave her back her life?